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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did and TRUELY wish we did not. They dated 1.5 years. He just broke up with her 2 days before Valentines Day. He is leaving to go to college in California and she is beyond devastated. She is screaming and crying. She starts therapy next week. They still remain "Best Friends" which does NO GOOD! Yes they slept together. We like the boy a lot. However, the age difference is huge and he is moving on. He explained it and she is in denial. Yes they will go to Prom and such.....but her heart is broken.[/quote]

Wow, he's being pretty cruel to drag this out. Death by a thousand paper cuts. Please encourage her to make a clean break.[/quote]

If she's "screaming and crying" now, imagine what prom night will be like. And be assured, the past tense of "they slept together" will be very much present tense--do you really think she isn't going to say yes to prom night/farewell sex? Are you OK with that, and all the emotion and pressure involved? Wow. Of course, if you say no to prom, you're a villain to her and she'll have sex with him anyway.

I really would ask that therapist if it's a good idea for a girl this emotionally fragile to go to prom with the guy whose departure she already can't handle. It sounds like a recipe for devastating her further, not giving her closure.

To OP: This is why teens who are younger shouldn't start dating. Not ready for all the emotional drama or for letting go. I know a lot of families where there is no dating until age 16 or junior year. It's somewhat arbitrary and doesn't guarantee no drama but it's better than kids dating at 13 or 14. [/quote]

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