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[quote=Anonymous]My son is a freshman in college. 8th grade was when he really started pulling away with a moodiness, anger, and rage I simply could not understand. It was almost like any effort I made - whether kind, neutral, or maternal was met with immediate hostility.

The stresses of high school just exacerbated it. He did well academically, but it was a struggle, and about 3/4 of the way through his freshman year, I had to virtually stop being involved because any effort or interest was met with instant anger.

His social circle was small, but pretty consistent. He had a girlfriend, a nasty breakup, and then another his senior year. He enjoyed video games and years of chorus, which I think he stayed in out of inertia more than anything.

As he withdrew from me, DH filled an ever-larger role. I think he was conflicted - confused at the growing distance between DS and me, relieved that DS hadn’t shut him out, too, and a little resentful that he had to handle virtually everything with DS. Things never really improved with us, and even innocuous conversations would escalate into confrontations - I would start with the best of intentions, but he would just push my buttons.

With him at college, not much has changed. We text occasionally, but my texts will sometimes go days with no response. It’s hard to reconcile what we’ve become with what we used to be.[/quote]

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