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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay well some hard truths. I don’t know. I feel like breaking down and crying. All of this is difficult and I’m doing the best I can all of it on my back. He is in a great school and is thriving but I can’t compete. I mean holding onto my job and while the pay increase isn’t viable- I have telework and many of vacation days. I’m not sure I can take much more and I feel like I’m making the worst decision of my life having us here. Everything else doesn’t work out financially for me- moving or owning a car and the maintenance it would take to get us back and forth. [/quote]

I am one of the ones saying he needs his own space at some point.  You are doing great. This is the downside of being a single mom, while you don't have compromise with anyone, the decisions are all on you and that means even the hard ones.  You are doing great. He is in a great school and is thriving. Logistically you are doing great, and logistics are a huge thing for any working parents.  What you are doing with the benefits of flexibility with your job, his school and childcare and your commute are working now. The early elementary years are the hardest logistically IMO, because the kids can't stay home alone or get themselves around, but schools are rarely set up to help working parents at all.  It is the piecing together of coverage for snow days, school holidays, getting kids to and from school, before/after care - it is HARD.  And you have a job and a living location that are making that work.  Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater! I think a lot of parents have self doubts. I know I did. I just read online that Princess Kate has self doubts about working and being a mom.  It is HARD for everyone for different reasons.  Hang in there.

You are in the thick of it now and it will get easier.  Everyone has to make choices about their money.  You are making great choices.  It is also okay for your kids to complain about your choices. Don't take it personally.  My ds knows how lucky he is but he also complains that we live on a busy street instead of a quiet one like his friends who can play basketball in the street. I said, Ok.  Well, I like our street. You can live where you want to when you grow up.  It is okay for him to say that and I don't need to take it personally.  His friends live in large houses on quiet culdesacs.  I like my small house on a busy street. It is okay for him to like other things.

Hugs to you. [/quote]

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