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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband left me for a co worker and they have been happily married for 8 yrs now. Shes a wonderful step mom.  Playing out a lifetime movie in real time almost killed me. One day when my kids are adults I might tell them about the overlap but why ruin their ideals about their dad after all this time. I am here to tell you that this can happen and they can *sometimes* have their cake and eat it too. I just mention this bc a lot of times the person who is cheated on is consoled by the fact their ex will face impending doom. Well doomsday never came here. [/quote]
Yes, of course, there can be a better ending, but how often does that happen?  Hard to say.

I think this part is so true:

[quote]You say the spark is no longer in your marriage (and on a positive note, you remember the spark), but many parents entrenched in the day-to-day with infants or toddlers feel this way, and seek out, either in fantasy or reality, a welcome escape from the sometimes mundane, roommate-like existence that couples can fall into during this phase of life....
Moreover, if you two eventually have children together, you may find yourself five or 10 years from now wondering how you ended up in the same situation once again: content, but with decreased intimacy, increased tension, and a nagging sense that Mocha Almond Fudge is an even better flavor of ice cream than Rocky Road.[/quote]

Most of life is mundane, and hard when you have kids.  IMO, like the guy in the article, most people who have "vanilla" marriages see affairs as an escape from the mundane or stresses of being a working parent.  The person you are having an affair with hasn't had to deal with your everday sh1t for the past x years.  It's  like when you first started dating the person you are married to. The sparks and passion are there because it's new.  Fast forward 10 years, and that spark too will be gone. Then what? Then you are older so those sparks don't matter anymore?   That screams immaturity and selfishness.[/quote]

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