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[quote=Anonymous]Mom of a gay teenage boy here, and I agree with everyone that kids today are much, much more accepting. Lots of kids are out, and talking about sexuality is the norm.

But! He goes to an extremely diverse school in a very liberal community. And even there, some kids use “gay” as an insult; he told me about a boy who was recently asked if he was gay by someone he didn’t know well, and the boy did feel like it was intended to make him feel other/different.

In a less-accepting environment, asking a question like that out of the blue could be a “mean girl” thing—a way of making OP’s daughter feel like something is weird/different about her. If that’s the case, OP, as others have said, make sure your daughter knows that there’s nothing wrong with being gay and that any “friend” who asks the question in way designed to make her uncomfortable is not operating in good faith.

All of that said, this is NOT something to talk to teachers or the other kid’s parents about. It’s also possible that the other kid is thinking about her own sexuality and looking for allies; you don’t know how teachers and parents would respond to that, either. So focus on ensuring your daughter knows that being gay is normal and that a friend would never use “gay” as a weapon.[/quote]

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