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[quote=Anonymous]I enjoy all types of music, and I don't think telling a teen not to listen to rap is going to be productive. They all listen to it (well, at least all the boys I know).

I approach this in the same way as I approached the Super Bowl performance with my kids.  Performing arts, whether it is  music, dance, theater, etc. are forms of artistic expression. Artists express themselves through their art, but it is up to the audience how it is received or internalized.  You can enjoy or appreciate art without emulating aspects of it in your life.  And context matters. What is appropriate in a performance is not necessary appropriate in your personal life.

What I've told my sons is that I would prefer that they listen to clean version of songs, although I know they don't always do that. If, however, they listen to explicit versions, they have to realize that impact ends with listening. If they aren't mature enough to refrain from internalizing the messages or using the language, then listening is off the table.  There will be consequences.

We have had many discussion about aspects of rap music that are generally objectively offensive were they to be taken outside of the context of artistic expression, including the offensive language, violence, and misogynistic messaging.  Sometimes, I listen to songs they like and we talk about the lyrics and what the messages are.  What is the artist's perspective? Do you agree with it?  Does the music reflect the artist's personal experience?  I try not to judge the artist or the merits of the music, but to point out why certain messages or perspectives can lead to unhealthy outcomes. I guess I try to get them to filter all information they get from whatever source, including rap music.

With all of that said, I still live in fear that my impulsive son is going to wind up quoting some lyric and using the "n" word at school. But I've done all I can to make him understand how unacceptable that would be.

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