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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can do this if you want to look like a whiny weasel and be a social pariah. They’re kids, lady. They have to figure this stuff out, that’s called human development [/quote]

Hey OP, here's the parent of the rude kids. [/quote]

+1,000![/quote]

Lol no. Just a teacher tired of adults taking away kids’ ability to develop coping skills and then wondering why they aren’t resilient [/quote]

Wow. You are a teacher? This has nothing to do with resilience. Children should not be allowed to treat others this way. Period. [/quote]

I never said they should but the kids have to divide out how to stand up for themselves then. Parents running to parents to tell so parents can run interference doesn’t solve it. Remember when you were a kid at the playground, you handled other kids. Your parents were not there to intervene. Kids NEED that, I am telling you, I see the results in high school when they can’t even ask me about a missing assignment or can’t handle even a minorly annoying interaction with another student because their mom always handles everything. Op should tell HER kid how to respond to kids like that in the future, not tell the other parents and expect them to fix it.   [/quote]

I don't disagree with you. I have let my DS play solo with his friends at play dates since he was 5. I keep an ear out, we have a smaller house so I can hear what is happening pretty much any where in the house. If I heard noises I couldn't explain or shouts I popped my head in to investigate. If there was an argument I would stand outside the door and wait it out. The kids needed to work these things out and I needed to let them work it out. That said, I wanted to make sure I was there if I needed to step in because they are kids. 99% of the time I did not need to do anything. The other times I would normally need to step in an remind the kids to take turns and suggest using a timer so they know when to rotate to the next kids game. And using kind words. I saw that as normal and never said anything to parents.

When there were tears and unkind words or I saw physical shoving in anger, I let the parents know. I never saw it as a kid being mean or awful but a kid becoming overwhelmed and not understanding the best way to handle things. They are, after all kids. There have been two kids that I actively did not want my child around because of their behavior and inability to self regulate. Both would hit kids and adults, throw rocks, and yell and tantrum without consequences. It was as much on their parents for not trying to control the behavior as it was on the kid for misbehaving in that way. One of those kids is in a much better place and plays fine with other kids at the park, including my son. The other is still off limits. [/quote]

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