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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, we have 50/50 joint legal and physiacl, and our son switches houses every Sunday. This has been the case since he ws two-and-a-half. He's now nine and by far the most well adjusted of the three of us. A week is a long time for a two year old, but now it's a good stretch of time. It gives everyone time to adjust and feel settled and DS actually feels like he lives somewhere, but it's not TOO long.

Do I hate it? Absolutely. Could I think of a better alternative? No, I really couldn't. His dad loves him and he loves his dad. Our marriage was awful and completely unsalvageable, but taking either of them away from each other wasn't an option that made any sense. We parent better together divorced. [/quote]

Why is having primary custody equated to taking DC away ... he could have weekday visitations and weekend overnights. They would still see each other. Thanks for your post! This is really helping me understand both sides of the argument.[/quote]

Because even though our marriage was terrible for everybody, we are equal parenting parters and remain so. This way nobody gets to be the good guy all the time, nobody gets to be the bad guy all the time. Our household activities and chores are not divided by gender. My son has learned that grownups fix cars and do dishes and re-finish floors and cook no matter what sex they are. There are definite plusses. He's nine. He's in school during the weekday. We only distrupt the school week schedule when absolutely necessary (almost never), because we feel that stability over the course of the school week is incredibly important. We are not easily played off of each other, either. Everyone gets a full weekend day, so we get to share the fun stuff, and at the same time nobody is the Disneyland parent. The proof's in the pudding. He's a great kid. He's a happy kid. [/quote]

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