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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question: Does it irritate your skin when your children touch you, or only your husband? Does any touch of his repulse you, such as holding hands or a hug, or only more intimate touches? Does the thought of giving him a bj repulse you or only being a recipient of his advances?

It seems like your body got bombarded by so many unpleasant physical sensations after your kids came that it is a conditioned response now to dread intimate touches even when the nursing is over. Also with the painful pumping you were turning your body into a milk producer without the wonderful physical and emotional sensations that come with breast-feeding. And he's not attuned to your sleep needs and concerns.

Yes, seek counseling. There is a name for what you've got... I forget what it's called but it's a very real psychological condition. A friend's husband had it so badly they never even consummated their union after ten years. The right sort of therapist who is knowledgeable about this disorder might be helpful and also might provide guidance about how to communicate your difficulties to your husband.[/quote]

Not the op, but this was an interesting response because I sometimes do feel repulsed when people touch me. Or get too close to me. this does not happen all the time but is very strange when it does happen. Does anyone know what could be causing this?[/quote]

As I'm the person whose response interested you, I tried a quick web search on aversion to being touched (in a broader sense, whereas before I heard searched on sexual aversion).  I'm sure there are any number of triggers, but I quickly came upon a page for people for whom a possible aversion to being touched is just one relatively minor aspect of a much broader state.  [url]http://empathcommunity.eliselebeau.com/forum/topics/aversion-to-being-touched[/url]   Reading this page and then following some of the links at the top of the page introduced me to a world of people I had never known of, empaths.  It's a complete digression from the OP (sorry) and it's only one of what are surely a multitude of explanations for aversion to touch or personal space invasion, but it might *possibly* be helpful to someone here....
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