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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m straight and cis gender, so take it for what it’s worth, but[b] I’d try to find a skilled therapist who is knowledgeable about transgender issues [/b]and just let your daughter talk to them. Teen years are hard. Social issues are hard. Bullying is awful. But add on top of that someone who’s exploring their gender or sexual orientation? I think a therapist (has to be a good one) would be so helpful. And if she is transgender, there’s someone there who can help her navigate the complex road of transitioning.

And FWIW, my friends daughter first thought she was gay, then non binary, then transgender. He first chose they/them as pronouns and now uses male pronouns. He’s very comfortable with who he is now but it was a process.  [/quote]

Don't do this. The current trend is for "gender-aware" therapists to push transition on any child who expresses any thoughts about being transgender.

I would just wait this out and let your daughter do what she wants to.  14 is still very young. If you start to see serious signs of depression, then get therapy for that.  [/quote]
I hear that a lot but I don't really believe it because the guidelines for true gender-affirming therapy is not to push the child in any one direction.  I don't know if all of these stories are because guidelines are not being followed or because parents are disappointed in the outcomes.[/quote]

Thank you for saying that. PP’s response would be like saying “don’t go to couples counseling because that leads to divorce.” Sometimes, maybe, but they were already rocky.

There’s an idea, not really based on facts (maybe a few anecdotes but usually it’s 17th hand knowledge or something they read online so it must be true), that you can go to any therapist and they’ll affirm that you’re trans, and then you can go to any doctor and get hormones. It’s a lengthy process when done properly. Rarely do kids discuss the possibility of being trans with their parents the first time it pops in their head. By the time they discuss with parents, they’ve probably been considering it for a while. By the time they get in therapy, they’re typically pretty deep in the decision making process. What kids tell their parents about gender and sexuality often differs from what they tell their parents about gender. No one reasonable and responsible is pushing this on kids. That’s different from being accepting, which is what professionals do.  [/quote]

+1. From firsthand experience. [/quote]

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