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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just talk to your son. The other kid was being an idiot. Teach him not to be upset by what other people say. That's a skill everyone needs to learn, no matter what the issues in their lives are.[/quote]

+1.  Kids say stupid things.  He could have made that up, seen or heard something like it on TV, etc....

I would not start stirring up the pot with the mom or teacher.  Talk to your kid and teach him not to take things to heart too much.

I would only talk to the mom if this is a re-occurring pattern or behavior from the other child.[/quote]

You are both awful.   A child should not have to just deal with this.  It is harmful to the op’s child. Reevaluate your privilege.  Do better. [/quote]

I'm the first PP you are quoting. I am not awful. I have a brown-skinned child. The way he is mistreated because of his skin color is just too overwhelming to address on an individual basis. I talk to him about the ways of the world. It's sad he has to know that but it's reality. A child should not have to deal with anything but a perfect world and yet here we all are. My job is to be my child's guide in the world. It's not my job to teach everyone else's kids how to act -- besides being impossible. We have better things to do.

Racism is part of life. I help my kid deal with it. I can't change the world to one he "deserves" to live in but I can help him thrive in this one.[/quote]

You need to do more and be a better advocate for your child if you think this is the right approach.  Stand up for your kids! [b]No POC I know would let this slide.[/b] [/quote]

I go to bat for my kids 100% of the time -- and that includes talking to them when that makes more sense than anything else. You have to teach your children to navigate the real world. I doubt you have any experience with this or you would know you'd be wasting a lot of time putting out small fires over and over and getting nowhere if you addressed every stupid comment a 6 year old made, instead of equipping your kids with the skills they need to succeed in the real world. My kids won't be scarred by whatever comment someone decides to say about them. We don't give others that power, and neither should the OP's child. There are small minded, mean people in the world. My kids are going to succeed despite them, not only if and when others change for the better.[/quote]

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