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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I retired this year because my husband had stay-at-home wife privilege and my full-time salary. I will do the SAH stuff and we'll keep the once a week housekeeper. We'll see how it goes. We can financially handle it; just not sure if I"ll like it. I'm 6 years older but worked about 10 years longer in my career than he has. Also, my career paid more over the years so I also saved about 2/3 of the family fortune. I've earned it. Maybe he has too. That said, not only should he pick up kid, he should master the art of making your take-to-work lunches.

Imagine a nice bento with warm soup in the bottom, some pot stickers in the middle, and a fresh salad on top, above the hot top? Sounds good doesn't? 
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OP here. That's funny. That was his exact phrase - he's earned this. Only thing is, if we maintain the status quo, I feel like's he's earned it at the cost of my labor -

He currently makes the kid's lunch. He's a really good lunch maker. However, one of my job benefits is free on-site meal, so I've never asked :)[/quote]

Not that I actually think it should come down to money, but would he be able to afford your current lifestyle (mortgage, healthcare, household expenses) without your income?  Or at least half of it?  If not, he really hasn’t “earned” it.  You’re just subsidizing him to allow him to retire - which is fine, that bargain is made all the time and I don’t see any issue with it provided the working spouse is comfortable with it.

But, even if he has, he should be doing the drop off and pick ups because his schedule is more flexible and it’s just petty he wouldn’t.

We may potentially face this in a year.  My H can retire (law enforcement), and has said he’d take over drop off and pick when he does, as well as all sorts of other random household things.  I’m skeptical, but, willing to see how it goes (I think he’ll hate it).    He wants me to retire as well, but I’m not ready for several reasons (boredom, want more in retirement funds).  I’m fine with being the primary breadwinner (he’d have a pension, but it’s a fraction of his current salary), but I’d also not want to pay $800/month for aftercare plus $$ for full time camps during school breaks.  Totally fine still outsourcing cleaning though! [/quote]

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