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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH is emotionally abusing your child and is laying the foundation to alienate you as a parent.  Stop it now.

His comments are teaching your child that you are to be marginalized and if the child doesn't go along with DH then they will be punished.

His comments to you about your mothering are incredibly abusive.  If this is how he feels I'd start planning my exit strategy NOW if you ever want to have a healthy relationship with your child.

If you stay your DH will wind up poisoning the mind of your child so that they eventually hate you. [/quote]

OP:  this is my greatest fear.  I would honestly like to divorce because he is incredibly disrespectful to me in general, but I am afraid that he will proceed with parental alienation and also worry that he will be emotionally abusive to DC when I am not around to serve as a buffer.  For example, when he is playing chess with DC, he will say, "Are you going to go or just sit there and stare at me?" Or if DC makes a bad move he will say, "What the hell are you doing?"  I call him out on this so that DC knows it is not appropriate, but I worry about what will happen if I am not there.[/quote]

What will happen is that your kid will know that his mom left because his dad was abusive.

Your presence is not stopping the abusive behavior - just condoning it. The message your DC gets now is that abusive from dad is just how things work in your family. And sometimes mom whines about it, but is otherwise supportive of dad’s parenting.

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OP:  I hope this is true, that DC will understand why we need to divorce.  The other main reason that I have stayed thus far is that he has threatened suicide if we split, more than once.  I insisted on him seeing a professional, and he has now been seeing a psychiatrist weekly.  His outbursts have become less frequent since then, but the controlling behavior is still there.[/quote]

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