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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What he's proposing is not fair - it's meant to financially punish you for wanting to divorce.  Get a lawyer and do everything by the book.[/quote]

How is he screwing her?  She wants more than 50%.  They split everything equally including selling or buying out the other person with the house and done.  He gets 50% time share when he's in the US or where ever he lives and pays child support if he makes more and when he's not in the country its adjusted for the time share change with Mom having more.  She makes it sound like she wants child support and alimony despite she is working so she doesn't need alimony and more than 1/2 the assets especially the house.[/quote]

OP here. Where did I say I want more than 50%?
It might make sense for us to divide in half overall, but not necessarily from each pot. For example, since he is leaving in 18 months for a a three year post, I will be doing most of taking care of the kids over the next few years no matter what. Therefore, it may make more sense (to me) to divide things in such a way that would allow me to purchase a slightly larger more comfortable home for the kids. Maybe that would mean letting him keep more of TSP. That’s just an example I’m throwing out there.

I have been able to return to work and received promotions in the last couple of years, now reached the point where I can support myself financially (I am very low maintenance, but living in DMV so housing costs are high no matter what) and likely won’t get significant, if any, spousal support. Kids are 9 and 12. On my own, without child support, I can afford a 3 bedroom apartment in a so-so school zone and live extremely frugally and kids will be latchkey and won’t be able to afford sports or activities. I’ve been poor before, including during parts of my marriage, and I know it will suck. DH admonishes me that I won’t be able to provide for them well and suggested that I leave, since he claims to be able to afford our current mortgage (3500) and costs on his own.

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You do not need a larger home.  $3500 is a big ass mortgage, IMO. [/quote]

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