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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Very few times did I go visit when my extending bio-relatives were there as well. Often one in the bunch was not comfortable with my being there, which I can respect. I did extend an open invitation to come visit me. Twice a year she would come for a week or two. [/quote]

Thanks, pp. OP here. This is very similar to how we've been handling it thus far. Did you ever do holidays together? Did you want to? Did she? What was that like for you? Did it just not come up?[/quote]

I went to her birthday party one year and a family reunion. She came to my wedding and a Thanksgiving once. I was very comfortable with her coming and joining in with my adoptive family, but less comfortable heading into larger gathers with my bio-family. Honestly the hardest was her funeral. I wanted to be there, but knew it would be hard on the others...so I stayed away. [/quote]

Wow. So, very similar. We've been doing the exact same thing. Are you happy with the decisions that were made, for the most part anyway? Would you do it differently if you had it to do again? Do you regret, now that she's gone, not going to bio-family events more - even if that upset some others - for your own sake?

Thanks very much for sharing. - OP[/quote]

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