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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She sounds like my mom, who prob has a personality disorder.

I do my best to have no reaction and redirect as a PP was talking about.

When it was really bad, I would immediately go home when it started. That helped reduce how often she would do it. I also went many years making sure I was never alone with her.

And I had to handle that I had no real mother and thrive despite that. [/quote]

I could have written this and for a second I thought I did.[/quote]

[b]NP and I was advised by my therapist to go home the second and I mean the moment after my father would either raise his voice/scream/belittle or otherwise verbally abuse me. I recall telling my father up front that I will leave if he can't control himself. I left suddenly just once, then stood my ground and it never happened again. My father is now dead, so there's that.  Peace![/b]

Now I'm left with my pushover, narcissistic, judgmental mom who loved to proclaim things like, "didn't you have the most wonderful childhood?!" And backstory: my late father was a raging, screaming monster of an alcoholic who sporadically left the family for sometimes months at a time. We moved frequently to avoid embarrassment and to start over...so no, I did not have a wonderful childhood. My mom is delusional. Years ago, I calmly told my mom that years of therapy and some good meds helped me grieve for my lost childhood and move forward. True. This shut her up, finally. [/quote]

Interesting. I did this with my mother once and she had no awareness she had thrown a tantrum. She thought I was completely crazy. If I didn't have witnesses to previous tantrums, I would start to doubt myself.[/quote]

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