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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would it bother you if your parents left your sibling more than you because sibling chose not to work?[/quote]

Need more info as to why sibling isn't working for money
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He doesn’t like working. He saved up some money 200k and quit the job he hated at 35. He is almost 50 now. He is divorced and lives with our parents over a decade. They pay most of his bills. He has been lazy since he was a kid. My mom wants to make it fair by giving him the house he lives in with them -worth over a million, then split the cash between the two of us. So she is rewarding his laziness.[/quote]

Doesn’t sound like a very happy life. Truly no reason for you to be jealous.

My siblings need more than me. I wish my parents had more to give them. I do my best to help. [/quote]
Since when does fairness equal jealousy?[/quote]

When you’re upset at what you perceive as a lack of fairness, it’s because you think someone has what you don’t, so jealousy. If you don’t like the word, sub in something else. The vocabulary doesn’t matter. It’s the attitude that’s going to cause problems.

No one on this board would want to trade places with an unemployed 50 yr old living at home with elderly parents. Sounds terrible. [/quote]
Jealous is the wrong word. Presumably OP works and has a lot more money than her brother, so why would she be jealous?[/quote]

The j-word here is not jealous but JUDGMENTAL. OP sees their brother at morally less-than for not holding down a job and paying his own bills. There have been no examples of the brother being cruel or abusive. His “crime” is that he lives with the parents who pay his bills. But in OP’s eyes, the brother is morally wrong for the choices he has made.

Must be painful live such a miserable life, OP. People just keep not meeting the high standards you’ve set for them. [/quote]

If you are a reasonably intelligent and functional adult and you can't support yourself out of choice, then yes, it is fair to be judgmental. It's not a question of setting high standards for any such person is capable of working at a basic job and living in a simple apartment rather than mooching off the bank of Mom and Dad into their 50s.

In this day and age, the concept of being judgmental seems to trigger certain people, but judgmental exists for a reason. You have the right to live your life the way you want as long as it doesn't hurt others, but you do not have the right to screech that people not be judgmental about it. [/quote]

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