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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would it bother you if your parents left your sibling more than you because sibling chose not to work?[/quote]

Need more info as to why sibling isn't working for money
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He doesn’t like working. He saved up some money 200k and quit the job he hated at 35. He is almost 50 now. He is divorced and lives with our parents over a decade. They pay most of his bills. He has been lazy since he was a kid. My mom wants to make it fair by giving him the house he lives in with them -worth over a million, then split the cash between the two of us. So she is rewarding his laziness.[/quote]

This happened in my DH's family.  Unfortunately you do not get to tell your parents how to spend their money.  They have enabled him, they now see it as their obligation to take care of him.  I have always believed that estate planning should be done with those left behind in mind, with the goal of preserving family relationships.  Sadly this is already affecting your relationship with your parents because you are angry you cannot do anything about it, and, if you allow it to, it will eat away at your relationship with your brother long after your parents are gone.  FWIW, he is there with them and would be the one taking care of them in their elderly years, is he is not already doing this.  Are you willing to move your parents into your household and provide them care?  Probably not, most of us are just not equipped for such a challenge.  If you want to preserve your family relationships, you are going to have to let this go, it is not your choice.  My DH has NO relationship with the sibling who was so generously provided for by his parents, NO relationship.  They were fairly close before the reading of the will, it deteriorated immediately thereafter.  Make a choice what ultimately is important to you.[/quote]

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