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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would it bother you if your parents left your sibling more than you because sibling chose not to work?[/quote]

Need more info as to why sibling isn't working for money
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He doesn’t like working. He saved up some money 200k and quit the job he hated at 35. He is almost 50 now. He is divorced and lives with our parents over a decade. They pay most of his bills. He has been lazy since he was a kid. My mom wants to make it fair by giving him the house he lives in with them -worth over a million, then split the cash between the two of us. So she is rewarding his laziness.[/quote]

Doesn’t sound like a very happy life. Truly no reason for you to be jealous.

My siblings need more than me. I wish my parents had more to give them. I do my best to help. [/quote]
Since when does fairness equal jealousy?[/quote]

When you’re upset at what you perceive as a lack of fairness, it’s because you think someone has what you don’t, so jealousy. If you don’t like the word, sub in something else. The vocabulary doesn’t matter. It’s the attitude that’s going to cause problems.

No one on this board would want to trade places with an unemployed 50 yr old living at home with elderly parents. Sounds terrible. [/quote]
Jealous is the wrong word. Presumably OP works and has a lot more money than her brother, so why would she be jealous?[/quote]

The j-word here is not jealous but JUDGMENTAL. OP sees their brother at morally less-than for not holding down a job and paying his own bills. There have been no examples of the brother being cruel or abusive. His “crime” is that he lives with the parents who pay his bills. But in OP’s eyes, the brother is morally wrong for the choices he has made.

Must be painful live such a miserable life, OP. People just keep not meeting the high standards you’ve set for them. [/quote]

NP. None of this matters PP. Call it jealously, judgement, whatever. Most emotionally healthy people would surmise that a 50 year old man (or woman) that lives and mooches off his parents is a parasite. I'm sure OP is feeling a bit jealous of the lengths her parents are willing to go to care for him. I'm not sure who wouldn't judge him for his current living situation. He is, after all, mooching off his elderly parents so he doesn't have to work. I don't think expecting a grown adult to care for themselves as such is setting a high standard. That's like expecting a person to wipe after they've used the bathroom as being a high standard. Just part of being a functioning adult.[/quote]

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