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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She sounds like my mom, who prob has a personality disorder.

I do my best to have no reaction and redirect as a PP was talking about.

When it was really bad, I would immediately go home when it started. That helped reduce how often she would do it. I also went many years making sure I was never alone with her.

And I had to handle that I had no real mother and thrive despite that. [/quote]

I could have written this and for a second I thought I did.[/quote]

NP and I was advised by my therapist to go home the second and I mean the moment after my father would either raise his voice/scream/belittle or otherwise verbally abuse me. I recall telling my father up front that I will leave if he can't control himself. I left suddenly just once, then stood my ground and it never happened again. My father is now dead, so there's that.  Peace!

Now I'm left with my pushover, narcissistic, judgmental mom who loved to proclaim things like, "didn't you have the most wonderful childhood?!" And backstory: my late father was a raging, screaming monster of an alcoholic who sporadically left the family for sometimes months at a time. We moved frequently to avoid embarrassment and to start over...so no, I did not have a wonderful childhood. My mom is delusional. Years ago, I calmly told my mom that years of therapy and some good meds helped me grieve for my lost childhood and move forward. True. This shut her up, finally. [/quote]

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