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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take whatever gender stereotypes you have for couples and flip them. The result is my failed marriage. My ex-wife didn't do much as a mom while we were married. At first I thought it was post-partum, but I later realized she just didn't have it in her. I have no doubt that she loved our daughter, but she lacked the compulsion to be involved that you associate with being a mom. I did everything from taking her to the pediatrician to buying all of her clothes, toys, and food. At one point I thought that if I stepped back and did less then it would prompt her to step up. Everything went to hell. We ran out of diapers, the house looked a mess, and she seemed completely unfazed by it. During our divorce, there was a moment of peace where we were both honest with each other.[b] She told me that she had no interest in settling down when she married me, but I seemed like too good of a guy to let go. She pretended to be something she wasn't because she didn't want to wake up alone one day. The realization that she didn't want to be a wife or mom was too strong to ignore, so she just tried to stay out of my way.[/b] Now that we're divorced, she's a lot better. She still doesn't know our fifth grader's teacher's name. She calls to ask what size clothes and shoes to buy, but at least she buys them. [/quote]
I feel that the bolded is how most men are.  IMO,  most men don't really care about having children. They do it because they know the wife wants to, but for the most part, if it was left up to the men, they would have no children because children mean life style changes; giving up your freedom, independence, money, your selfish lifestyle, etc... and IMO, most men don't like to give that up.[/quote]

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