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[quote=Anonymous]My DH is pretty great and really helpful. But yeah, all of the mental load is on me. Something also that no one here is mentioning- cost. When I delegate things to DH, he will likely pay 2-3x what I would. Instead of buying a gift for his parents on black friday, he'd get it on December 24th for full price. He'd never get the nice, lower cost camp my kids really want, he'd do it late and be stuck with $600 a week camps that no one wants. When he takes the dog to the vet, they run allllll the extra tests, extra shots and then schedules an $800 teeth cleaning. It drives me insane that I can't task him with things like this because then it blows our budget.

He is a great traveler though and will get us great deals on airfare, hotels and rental cars. He's also an excellent grocery shopper (but he comes home with too much food because he doesn't meal plan, but that's okay because usually it's pantry goods that don't go bad quickly). If I lay the kid's clothes out, he'll dress them. If I don't, they often wear pajamas by mistake or he'll forget to put shoes on them (DS is 2, he needs shoes).

DH really likes lists and he asks me for lists every week of things I need for him to do around the house and fix. He typically will do the entire list. But I do have to plan it all and come up with the list in the first place.

This is all untreated ADD, not laziness thank god. I can't imagine lazy + ADD. [/quote]

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