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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]my sex drive took a dive after 1 kid and breastfeeding, etc. With two within a year (!) and a husband wanting to get busy late at night, I'm sure I'd be suffering even greater loss of libido.  However, the worrying part is the aversion (I don't cringe, I am just too damn tired to want sex a lot). But it could be related to you feeling like your body is everyone's property but your own.

we tend to have sex when its thursday (our housecleaner comes, the house is clean), near end of the week, DH brings take out and we are in bed by 9:30. its the combo of clean house, no cooking, looking forward to the weekend (when we are usually too tired for sex) and getting to bed early (no computer, no tv) that does it. [/quote]

Very similar story here.

OP - you may have a sex problem, or you  may just be exhausted and touched-out, with a husband trying to get intimate at a time when all you really want to do is sleep, which just furthers any underlying resentment and can lead to not wanting to be touched.

I can't tell from your post whether you are actually having sex at this point or not.  But if so, my recommendation is to figure out some way to have a morning date with your husband - take a 1/2 day off work (if you work), or get a babysitter to come take both kids to the park for 3 hours.  It can just be worlds easier to connect (emotionally as well as physically) when you're not extra worn out at the end of a long day.  And it also sounds like you're in the midst of sleep troubles - ALL these issues are so very much worse when you're severely sleep deprived.  So go easy on yourself - from your post and the close spacing of your kids, you are very much still in the trenches.[/quote]

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