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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do women have kids with these losers? What positive things you saw in this man that you decided he was marriage material or would be a great dad?[/quote]

Because emotional and psychological types of abuse are very insidious and you don't even realize it's happening, until it's too late. Then you feel trapped and you hope against hope that things will get better when you go to counseling, etc. You don't want to give up on something you've invested in for so long (albeit getting sh*t in return, as you realize more and more).

All this to say, it is VERY complicated, and unless you experience it, it's confusing to look at "from the outside".

Also, there's a lot of impression management in the early years to reel you in and get you invested, lots of lying, etc. Then later you wonder where the person you married disappeared to and who is this horrible parent.

It's so hard to explain. But it's devastating. And then even worse when you are in this type of "co-parenting" relationship (I'm in the same boat).[/quote]

Also, two words: cognitive dissonance (in abuse situations).
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