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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We wanted one child and now we have a delightful three year old. I very much do not want a second child, nor does my spouse. But I still can’t make peace with the fact I’m “letting my child down” by not giving him a sibling. Most families have a reason for an only that’s from necessity, like secondary infertility. We just love our family and feel complete. But I have so much worry that having parents who feel complete and have fulfilled their family planning hopes means nothing when our son is dealing with dying parents alone.

If we had a second we’d end up giving him two unhappy parents, so I know we are doing the right thing for us. But I wish I had more certainty I wasn’t setting him up for a less positive outcome. Am I over thinking this? Happy kids come from all sorts of families, right?[/quote]

You and your DH are doing the right thing for your family and are on the same page. Mine is an only and totally fine about it (in that it's the only life they've known) - never asked when babies of other families were around, never asked any other time. I think mine is content  :lol: [/quote]

Doing the right thing for your family because that's what you both want and are on the same page. Just want to make sure everyone doesn't jump on my comment because they think I'm saying "only one kid is the right thing to do"/.[/quote]

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