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[quote=Anonymous]I’m an adult only child. I had a happy childhood and am reasonably close to my parents. Sure it will be a burden when I have to deal with aging parents alone, but plenty of people have bum siblings that don’t help too.

You shouldn’t have another kid. What you should do is - 
Manage your weight and stress, take steps to stay mentally and physically healthy longer into old age. 
Have a clear will and advanced directive. 
Save for retirement.
Be willing to move in retirement to live close to your adult child, even if that means giving up your home or the town and region you have always known. Make the move when you are still young enough to help with grandkids and build a community support system before your health is failing.

What you should not do is put all you financial eggs in one basket by investing in your kid and failing to save for retirement or have appropriate life insurance. What you should not do is refuse to leave your large, older home that needs lots of maintenance and is a plane ride away from your kid until you break a hip or prove yourself mentally incapacitated enough that your kid has to come force you into an assisted living apartment and find you all new doctors on their own and then visit you 5x a week because you don’t know anyone and refuse to even try to make new friends. [/quote]

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