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[quote=Anonymous]I have an only (sorta by choice, I wanted 2, DH wanted 1, can't split the difference, so 1 it is. He's 13 now and we are all good). Its not that you are overthinking, but that you are letting your negative thoughts have power. You know you have might the right decision, you know you can't control your child's life outcomes, you know only children have wonderful lives. And yet you are indulging in negative thinking, and it hurts your kid. Find a way to stop it.

If your worry about not having a sibling is old age and end of life stuff for you, I understand, but there is lots you can do to make sure your aging isn't too much of a burden on your kid. Save enough for retirement. Buy long term care insurance. Exercise and maintain a healthy weight. And, when the time comes - actually, BEFORE you think the time has come - cheerfully uproot yourself and move to a continuing care community close to your kid. At that point, go all in  to make friends and build happiness and meaning outside of your child's life. Make sure your child knows your end of life wishes crystal clearly. Do all that, and your child will be 1000% better off as you age and die than they would have been with siblings but none of the above. [/quote]

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