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[quote=Anonymous]I have this. SIL is crazy from a crazy family and I can’t stand her. I am considering skipping spending x.mas with my mom this year (I am a single mom of an only child) just because SIL exhausts and maddens me. It has been 7(?) years now and I realize I am the one who looks crazed. In an effort to save my mother and aunt from SIL I spent so much time pointing out the crazy (which was obvious enough for all to see) and I ended up looking petty and vengeful. Well, SIL was living with my disabled aunt who has since passed away. Since SIL stopped being an immediate threat I have stopped paying attention to their lives and am much happier. I am trying to offer my mother some times with everyone in the same house and be gracious about it. I still cannot stand SIL but I don’t bother to protest. I support the decision you and DH made to step away from the dynamic. My mother remains entangled and I hate to confess I have called her on it a few times. Those experiences made me realize, she just won’t hear/adjust/behave accordingly and I cannot control that. Stepping away and only engaging on my terms (with a decision to be gracious and giving and kind with the time I do provide), I feel much better and stable myself. You and your DH got this OP.[/quote]

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