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[quote=Anonymous]I got accidentally pregnant and that made the decision for us! I was really on the fence too. Now my second is about 8 months old and let me give you the good and the bad:

1) First the bad. It really was the hardest thing I've ever done. I know this varies from person to person but I was CONVINCED it couldn't be that hard. My husband and I had a pretty easy time with the first one, we had a great rhythm down, people used to compliment us for being so "laid back" and "making it look easy". A second baby - who wasn't even that hard - knocked me on my ass. I ended up in therapy for it (think I probably had some PPA too). It was just so all consuming. The older one went off the rails and regressed in every way imaginable, the baby took 2+ hours to get to bed every night. For 5 months I just survived from one minute to the next. I don't want to sugar coat this because it really, really took me by surprise despite how many people tried to warn me. I was arrogant about it.

That said, by about 6 months the fog cleared and everything got SO much easier.

2) The good... I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. I love my second baby SO MUCH. You will be blown away by how much you love your second. I want to freeze time and keep her at this age forever. She is so cute and smiley, honestly I'm smiling even just writing this post. My older one is 3 now and can be a total pill but my baby is always perfect and angelic. It's just like you hear other people say, I love them both equally but sometimes I like one more than the other and right now I like the baby a lot more lol.

My oldest is the best big sister. Her baby sister makes her happier than anything in the entire world. She is the first thing she asks about when she wakes up in the morning. She is always thinking about what the baby wants or needs and she is really good at making her laugh or calming her when she cries. Giving them each other the sweetest, best thing I've ever done in my life.

And I thought it would take a lot longer than this but even at 8 months old, they are already "playing" together. We come home from daycare and I put the baby down in the living room and tell the 3 yo to play with her and they will both hang out for 20 min+ together entertaining each other and not bugging us at all. It actually blows my mind - I had hoped they might play together when the youngest was 2 or 3, I didn't expect it this quickly.

The idea that I almost didn't have my second baby makes me sad to even think about now. It is hard but worth every minute. [/quote]

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