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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have the second. It is a gift to your first child, that will live on after you and your husband have passed on (most likely). It is someone to help your first care for you, and grieve you, when you get old/pass on.

A sibling is a companion on vacations and just weekends at home. Someone to teach him how to share, and take turns. The second child will save your first child from getting an unhealthy amount of attention and focus from you.

Try, if it is not meant to be, it will not happen. The Universe has a way of working out.

PS-You said you put your marriage first. This is something your husband wants. Don't think of it as threatening your relationship. Rather, you are listening to him and trusting that he knows what you can all handle. Good luck![/quote]

OP here. I don’t think of having a second child as threatening our marriage. I only put that our marriage is strong and we put it first is because I know some will say having a second will put a strain on or marriage. It’s hard to balance everything but we are very happy. [/quote]

Please don't have a second. Why have a second child if you're going to neglect it to put your marriage first? You need to stop at one. Don't neglect and screw up any additional children.[/quote]

Ignore this person. They are ridiculous. If your marriage is strong, you’re happy with division of household labor and can afford : have plenty of family help, go for it. You may not love the second baby immediately but you will as they grow and the bond between the siblings at least when little is the cutest. I had 2 just under 2 and the older one was so sweet with his baby sis. My marriage on the other hand is a shitshow, but that’s another story.[/quote]

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