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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's great, but why can you not just tell them "hey, your schedule doesn't work for us. We are bringing food. We won't make any more work for you -- we'll wash all dishes, etc -- but we are going to eat when we're hungry. You're welcome to join us or not as you prefer."

Why should you have to revert to subterfuge. [/quote]

Well, I certainly could do that (and we have, to an extent); bottom line, we do make sure we're fed/kids are fed. We've even stayed in hotels over the food issue, but were met with a lot of comments and wailing over that one. (Not that we wouldn't do it again if needed.)

But there's a lot of comments, judgment, "You're hungry AGAIN" type of observation, and it made it more pleasant last year to just have something there that...couldn't be "argued with" or "reasoned with." I didn't have to ask for it, since it was mine; it wasn't a "hostess gift" that may or may not be set out, etc. It just made it super easy with no pressure.

I know a lot of people face similar food issues when visiting relatives for the holidays. If anyone was looking for a creative solution that didn't rock the boat, here's one to think about!

It's not that I can't handle the comments and do what I need to do anyway, it's that I'd rather not have to spend time and energy and emotions on that during the holidays, when I don't necessarily have to.[/quote]

Yup, all of this. While ideally we could all be honest and open, in practice, it doesn’t really work like that. [/quote]

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