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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am currently pregnant with number 3 and I would suggest waiting at least a little bit.  My first are 19 months apart but then we waited and there will be a 3.5 year age gap between 2 and 3. So far it seems to have worked out well since we will only have 2 in daycare at one time.  [b]DD1 will be 5 and DD2 will be 3.5 when the new baby comes[/b]. I am so glad we didn't do it any closer since I can trust my 5 year old and somewhat trust my 3.5 year old not to die while I am putting the baby down, etc. Any closer of a gap is hard.  But I also do a lot solo. If your DH is around and your have involved ILs then maybe it would work. [/quote]

This is my spacing exactly and it's very nice.  A spacing of 3.5 years felt like a total breeze after tackling the 2 year age gap, and my two youngest (both boys, elementary school ages) are very bonded now, pretty much inseparable.

That being said, I had time on my side - I think my answer to you would depend on how old you are now.  Are you still early thirties, or are you closer to 40 and time really is an issue if you want a third?[/quote]

Do you worry that the 3.5 year old will never really be part of the other sibling unit?  I like the idea of close together b/c it seems like they'll be their own little gang vs 2 that are close, and "the baby" that is kind of on its own.  i was 2y9m younger than my sister and even that kind of felt like too big of a gap for us to be friends growing up though we became friends once we were both in college[/quote]

I am the first PP and yes I am a little worried about the dynamics of 3 kids with the first two being very close in age and then the baby by themselves. We may end up having a 4th but time will tell.  I am on the younger side so we have time (36 when baby 3 is born and haven't needed any medical intervention to have the 3 kids).  But if we go for a 4th we would do it to have a close age gab between 3 and 4. [/quote]

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