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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] International adoption is most attractive to us because that seems to be where the greatest need is.[/quote]

There are kids here who need homes -- call the foster care office of your county.  They can place children with you who are available for adoption or likely to become available for adoption.[/quote]

Actually, thousands of children are languishing in foster care in the U.S., with bleak prospects.  I would add to older, and kids with disabilities, that children of color are less likely to get the permanent homes they need than white children.

Right now, many foreign countries charge an "adoption fee" that is basically a payment to the government for the child.  That's you subsidizing the government of Guatemala or China.

Domestic foster care systems often offer tax incentives to adopters-- that's how much they need to find loving, permanent homes for the children there.

I don''t think that it's a bad idea to choose adoption out of a desire to help a child.  It sounds selfless and brave.  I also think that whatever child comes into your home, he or she will have a far brighter future and happier life than in foster care.

Children are more resilient than we give them credit for.  There are all kinds of life changes that we subject them to because these are considered "normal."  Home moves, school changes, biological younger siblings.  Your kids don't have a reason to find a more unusual change more stressful than the other changes they will face.  At this age, they don't know that people don't often welcome an older child or a child of a different race into the family.  They know that it's different, and you help them through it like the birth of a sibling.  And perhaps they'll even become better people because they'll know firsthand that there are many ways to form a family-- all of them beautiful.

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