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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think about my old flame when things are going good with DH and we are getting super close or hitting an even deeper level of intimacy. It can be quite scary being that vulnerable with someone. So thinking about old flame was a way for me to not feel so vulnerable with DH. And old flame [b]was always emotionally distant[/b]. We'd have these intense moments, then we would run away. As much as it drove me crazy, looking back (and with therapy), made me see that on some level I wanted someone who would leave some space between us.

I starting thinking that it was good that I was fantasizing about old flame because it was a sign things with DH were good. [/quote]

The bolded up there...
It seems that your Old Flame was an Aspie and if so, unless you are one too it could became an issue for you and the kids.
Google  ASD and emotional distance etc.. you might see it differently and see if you really would be happier in such relationship. [/quote]

OMG--stop with the "EVERYONE IS AN ASPIE" stuff. Enough!

He's not on the Spectrum. He's messed up in so many other ways--ADHD and a touch of OCD and a horrible mother during his childhood. He is very emotionally close to his best (male) friend and sisters and nephew. It's just romantic relationships he can't figure out. Last I heard he was still not married or in a serious romantic relationship and he's 60. [/quote]

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