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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t you sleep in a hotel room?  I would have no sympathy if my husband got a quiet room to himself with zero interruption and “couldn’t sleep”

There isn’t any reason you shouldn’t come back rested.  Next time take an ambien or a Xanax[/quote]

Female here, and I don't sleep well in hotel rooms either.  Zero interruption is a fantasy - have you never stayed in a hotel?  People have parties in hotels, there are kids, there are people who have loud sex or sound like they are stomping around.  On top of that, the surroundings aren't familiar; it isn't your bed, your pillows, your environment, etc, so relaxation is already hard.  To say that flights are not comfortable is an understatement, even if you are flying first class.  Many people on travel party for sure, but I would say even more people are working 12-14 hours a day.

That said, I agree that OP needs to take over child care after being gone.  I think a better solution, however, if they could afford it, is to outsource some childcare for the days that he is traveling.  [/quote]

And yet, his wife, who is surrounded by familiar things, is not sleeping well either due to multiple children being up in the night and parenting on her own for several days. Why does he get the break to "catch up" and she does not?

As for your issues with hotels, I've slept hundreds of nights in hotel rooms and the situations you describe are usually few and far between. More likely you work 12 hours (fine, exhausting), and then come back to a quiet dark bedroom. If you can't go to sleep, there are, as PP notes, a lot of things that can be done to address that that do not add up to OP's wife getting no break while he gets several nights alone AND then several nights to catch up on missed sleep.[/quote]

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