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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm one of the posters on this forum who always and immediately thinks of anorexia and other eating disorders when people bring up concerns about their children.

It isn't that I am trying to diagnose everyone with anorexia or that I won't be happy until everyone admits their kids have anorexia.

It's just that anorexia is SO HARD to treat once it gets entrenched and SO MANY PARENTS I talk to knew felt or wondered if there was something going on months before anyone took it seriously (doctors etc).  There are warning signs and the earlier you get involved the easier it is to turn it around.

The best thing you can do right now is get ahold of your child's height and weight records since she was a toddler, plot the information on something like mygrowthcharts.com .  https://mygrowthcharts.com

and educate yourself a little bit on eating disorders if you suspect disordered eating.[/quote]
So you know you are projecting, right? Prevalence of anorexia is around 3.8% in women, per some studies. I am truly sorry you or your child are going/went through something like this. I too am prone to seeing anxiety in teens because my ds has it so severely. But, we have to stop projecting our issues onto other people and onto other children. It is not a competition as to who has it worse. People that see illness in everything, need to face that it is not everywhere. My dd's best friend is 18 and very skinny, she eats like a horse. OP, said she is mindful of some behavior changes in her dd, but she seems wise about not making a big deal about it YET.[/quote]

i'm not projecting anything.

I'm letting OP know that it is much easier to turn anorexia around if you intervene immediately.  So if you suspect it do NOT delay.

My daughter went through this, my niece went through this (lasted 3 years but she is well now), my friend's daughter went through this (second year of dealing with it- inpatient treatment), and now another friend's daughter is going through through this.   This latest friend saw the warning signs a year ago, but didn't want to overreact. Unfortunately now it is a crisis situation.  I feel so bad for her.

I do NOT need to see illness everywhere.  I am not making a diagnosis for OP.  I am telling her it is OK to look into it, and if she has concerns act immediately -- educate yourself because the consequences of waiting are extreme.[/quote]]
Given what you just wrote, it sounds to me you and your family and friends are toxic parents who caused this. What is the chance of all these kids in one family and among your friends (like minded people likely) going through the same thing? If I were you, I would take a good look in the mirror. It is almost always the parents that cause most issues in kids.[/quote]

I'm not the PP, but wow, what an unnecessary and rude thing to say. You are a cruel person.[/quote]

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