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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH's mother isn't a covert narcissist.  Everyone knows it.

She literally dragged me around her house (physically grabbing onto my arm and dragging me with her weight - she weighed 2x me at the time) during the engagement party she threw me and DH and instructing me to touch her friends' feet claiming it was a religious thing.  (I found out later from one of their family members that it wasn't).

She ruined the south asian wedding hosted by my parents by: 1) before the ceremony, telling DH to wear some headcovering and of course he went along with it; 2) draping me with some gross gold and red fake silk fabric during the ceremony -- all our wedding pictures are ruined 3) bringing her own priest that grabbed the mic after the ceremony and started chanting in sanskrit that no one understood; 4) at the reception told the DJ that it was her birthday and instructing him to instruct all the guests to sing happy birthday to her during our speeches.

After the wedding, she tried to convince DH to leave some of our gifts with her because they weren't our style.  DH went along with it until I made him return them when she sent me a text telling me to write those guests thank you notes.

I could go on and on. .. .[/quote]

Are you both SA?[/quote]

Sounds like they are both south Asian but different types of south Asian -- maybe different regions of the same country. That means MIL wanted things done HER way according to HER culture bc of course it's better than the brides' culture and/or the wedding wouldn't "count" if it wasn't done "correctly" according to MIL's culture. That would explain the groom's head covering, the fabric over the bride, and the priest chanting whatever -- it's probably what they do in MIL's subculture and she was aghast that bride's family wouldn't be doing that. Having guests sing HBD -- IDK -- maybe she's a jealous child who thought the bride and groom were getting too much attention and she wasn't? The gifts -- IDK -- greed or petty toddler jealousy that the bride and groom got gifts and not her?[/quote]

Yes, both south Asian, same country, different regions. All of the wedding stuff happened after I specifically asked if there were any ceremonies that she wanted included. Crickets at the time. So much more narcissistic behavior continued over the years.  Thankfully DH finally became aware and started standing up to her, at which point the target got lifted off my back to her own son’s. [/quote]

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