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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry I have to give my opinion. Please do not do third even if you say you are paying. My parents did this and it was so unfair and stressful. If you are being honest you are looking to pay less than an actual sitter and the ease of not finding a sitter. This was my parents. I was a good kid so I didn’t push back but it creates resentment. So unfair to
My little brother because it wasn’t his fault I was made to watch him. This seems to happen a lot with big families sort of the parents decide to have a lot of kids but then find away to make the younger kids take the work off their shoulder.[/quote]

I have to give my opinion. It's unreasonable for you to think children have no family responsibilities.  [/quote]

NP.
My, my, aren't you sanctimonious?
Family responsibilities is one thing -- however,  turning your kid into hired help, just so you can hit the town is quite another.

It creates RESENTMENT.

Look it up, there have been a million studies on th subject matter.

[b]If you're asking them to babysit once a month, it's fine -- if it's every single weekend, you're definitely going to fuel resentment from your older kids to the younger ones & it will change the familial dynamic & their relationship with each other going forward.  [u]Don't[/u] do this.[/b]

Nobody says the older ones need to have a babysitter too, the sitter can watch the younger ones & the older ones can go about their day.
You'd only be paying the sitter for 2 kids, yet she could keep a distant eye on the entire household.

That's one way to save money, not bribe your older kids to do what you should be paying someone else to do.

If you're not going to be honest with us, at least be honest with yourself -- you're doing it because you don't want to pay a sitter as much as it would cost & you don't want to deal with the hassle of making a bunch of phone calls just to find a sitter.

Please don't insult our intelligence and tell us that you're paying your kid between $15 - $20 an hour (which is the going rate for watching 2 kids).

Also, be prepared for push back when you try to tell your your oldest what they can and cannot do in the future.  If you felt they were responsible enough to watch 2  younger siblings, you can't tell them that they're not responsible enough to do other things.  
That would be hypocritical of you.

Read the below article OP.
It's interesting how the author of the article uses the word "bossy" to describe one of the reasons that older siblings get trapped into the role of babysitter... funny, isn't that the word you used to describe your oldest?

https://www.workingdaughter.com/the-truth-about-siblings-and-caregiving/[/quote]

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