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[quote=Anonymous]I had 2 kids under 8 when I divorced. I am now remarried in a blended family that is going well, to a wonderful partner.

I didn't "worry" about it. For starters, I kept my dating life 100% private. The man I married did not meet my kids for a year, even though we were very clearly super interested in each other and fell madly in love. With parenting schedules (his, too), it meant we couldn't see each other as often as we would have liked. For several years, until we married and moved both families in together.

I used a dating website/app. Many divorced men and women with kids are on there. My thoughts are, fine and good to mention that you have kids, but keep any personal details (ages, genders) off. No need to harp on loving your kids and your kids coming first. Any normal person feels that way and you don't need to state the obvious. If someone else is not understanding that your kids are important, or they have kids but aren't good parents, just move on from them. You can't do all pre-screening in your profile. Personally I really did not like when people put their kids' photos in their dating profiles. Huge privacy issues. It's not social media.

So start dating, have fun. If someone is showing inordinate interest in meeting your kids early, that's not a healthy sign. They're probably not a pedo but probably looking to move too quickly or have boundary issues. Move on.

No one should be in your house when your kids are there. Use common sense and keep yourself safe. It will be fine.[/quote]

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