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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had my kids parent-teacher conferences this week. I was told that both of them are always rushing and can’t settle down. Both teachers asked if I might know why they operate that way. And then it dawned on me that I am always rushing them to get ready in the am, rush8mg for them to eat breakfast, telling them to hurry up as soon as after school teachers tell them I’ve arrived (because we are rushing to get to an evening activity). Same goes for the weekends. Sometimes I find myself rushing them to move even though we are not on a schedule! I would say I have some anxiety: I am worried about being late to work even though there is a 30-minute flex of employees’ start times. I worry about getting to practices, games early enough so we can find parking (!) and/or they have appropriate time to warm up/get ready. I worry about flying. I worry about anything and everything happening to my kids. ...... all in a vacuum don’t seem out of the ordinary. I have a checklist on my phone of everyday tasks because I’m worried I’ll forget something. I have mild social anxiety....but nothing like when I was younger. Could all this anxiety and worry be shaping my kids into anxious, rush through life little people? Or is this just the life of a family with two working parents (One of which that is only around 30 minutes during bedtime), no local family support, no real extra funds to throw at outsourcing? any advice would be great. [/quote]As the daughter of an anxious mom who became an anxious mom of an anxious daughter, yes, your anxiety is affecting your kids but your kids may also have a genetic predisposition to being anxious - so you might not be able to make them [i]not[/i] anxious.  However, you are a role model for them so it may help them if they see you managing your anxiety openly and honestly.  It would be important for you to seek therapy and do some reflection so you learn how to manage it.  My mom tried to hide her anxiety but it leaked out everywhere.  Same with my MIL - but that didn't affect me so much because she didn't raise me.  I've tried to be open with my kid about how I've managed my anxiety.  She does her own work on her issues.  We are all coping.   Good luck with this, OP!  [/quote]

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