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[quote=Anonymous]This is hard to hear but: your mother (and father most likely) are part of the problem.  In fact, they are an integral part of the problem.  It's much easier to lay this blame on your aggressive, mean sister, but she didn't get their without help.

My DH's sister shares some traits with your sister.  Not quite as extreme (she'd never attack anyone) but she certainly harbors some deep resentment that my DH built a happy life while she is stuck co-dependent on her enabling parents.  Whenever sister attempts to be independent, MIL sucks her back in.  And then MIL complains loudly about how much she does for her ungrateful daughter.

Your mother should not even be asking you to be in the same room as your sister who physically ATTACKED YOU.  That is not something that's fair to ask of you.  She should know that, and she should be protecting you.  She won't, because she's also co-dependent on your sister.

Op, may I suggest a good therapist?  I'd cancel Christmas, make alternate fun plans for your kids, and nix any visiting until you have a better handle on how to protect yourself.[/quote]

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