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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are judging her for being heavy, and she is judging you for being on the way to overweight. Two peas in the pod.[/quote]

I don't judge her. At all. I don't hyper-observe and comment on what she eats and "advise" her on her diet or exercise habits.

But what, she can come at me with all that, and I'm supposed to be happy about it? I'm supposed to listen to this advice literally dispensed around a mouthful of Buffalo wing (this actually happened)?[/quote]
You are judging her so much! You should try to be a bit more relaxed. You are probably worried about your own weight and that is why this bothers you so much. So sure, she is without a censor, it will only get worse older she gets. Most of us learn to let it roll off, because we understand that they are elderly and losing most filters. You might hyper-observe her or comment, but come on, your every post is judging her, for her comments, and for her weight. Is she otherwise a nice mom? Is she a good grandma? Ask her next time, I mean she is you mom, right, ask her, "mom, why do you comment on my food choices?" Then listen to what she says, and tell her that she is making you uncomfortable and that you want her to stop. How hard is that.[/quote]

NP. Come on. Hypocrisy leaves me cold. You can’t tell me diet advice from someone eating wings as they were “helping” you wouldn’t bug.[/quote]
No, it doesn't. My mom is obese, I am not, she gives advice all the time on eating. All the time. She can't make up her mind if she wants me to eat more or eat something else. If I gain a few she comments negatively, is I put on a few she comments negatively! All I am saying is, she is elderly and she is my mom. So, sometimes I let it roll off, and something you tell her, no thanks without getting into some emotional battle. If you are going to fights your parents as they get old, you will end up with no peace of mind for yourself. And would you be ok with your super skinny relative giving you advice? I guess not.[/quote]

Boy, the patriarchy and “respect your elders” culture really got you. You’re such a Good Girl! [/quote]

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