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[quote=Anonymous]I tried it twice with no success.

If I had to pinpoint the two main reasons, I would say that it was because A) Our years of platonic friendship were apparently one-sided. B) Their "friendship personality" was different from their "relationship personality."

They both held feelings for years, so when we started dating they came into it guns blazing whereas I was a little slower in trying to get to know them in that way. Yes, I know you and everything about you as a friend, but that doesn't mean I'm ready to make a baby a month later. The first one said "I love you" on our second date. The other one wanted to not use protection so we could have a baby on our first time doing it. It's as if our years of friendship were supposed to automatically transfer over as some kind of relationship credit. And that leads to the next problem.

Both of them were wonderful friends. We had so much in common and could talk for hours day after day. The minute we started a relationship, it all changed. The conversations changed. They weren't as open maybe out of fear that I would now be judging them as a partner instead of accepting them as a friend. They were possessive or clingy in ways that they weren't before. The confidence that I admired as a friend turned into low self esteem and fear that I wouldn't like them as a partner. Sadly, I think a friend with benefits situation would have been a better springboard into a relationship. I dated them years apart. I'm still friends with one. I haven't spoken to the other since I broke it off years ago. [/quote]

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