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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No advice just sympathy here. I too think my husband needs therapy be he disagrees. He has become an angry bitter person and I think his is all job related too. He had a great job for a long time and was a happy person. The past couple years he has bounced from job to job and he’s miserable. Which would be fine except he refuses to see/admit that he’s not himself.[/quote]

Add me in.  My DH is like this too.  I'm tired of walking on eggshells with this man.  For all the folks who say, "why did you marry him?", well my DH has grown angry and miserable as time went on.  He wasn't this like this when we got married.  Or the folks who say "why don't you communicate?"  Yeah, some of us have tried.  But these DH's are so defensive and not self-reflective at all.  When I try to discuss these things, he quickly goes to "FINE, I WILL JUST LEAVE AND YOU CAN BE THE ONLY PARENT."

In my younger days I didn't really understood staying together for the kids.  Now I get it.  If it were just me, I'd leave. [b] But to uproot my (teen and tween) kids and turn their lives upside down?[/b]  [/quote]

You might want to consider getting an outside, unbiased person to evaluate your home/marriage/family.  There are times that a toxic relationship full of friction is more difficult on kids than a separation where they have two parents with less friction returning to sanity.

My brother had a difficult marriage because they fought about money all the time.  When they finally separated and later divorced, they fought much less when they had separate accounts and could each make their own financial decisions.  As my xSIL says, when they were no longer sharing money and financial decisions, they could remember what they loved about each other.  It took a couple of years, but they ended up being wonderful supportive friends and good co-parents.  They both remarried and my nieces have two wonderful sets of parents.  Things were easier growing up with two nearby households and two parents who were happy than one household with both parents unhappy.[/quote]

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