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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am blindsided about the affair, I thought DH and I had a good relationship (including sex life). I took some comfort in hearing from my friends that APs are usually a downgrade.  I am pretty sure I have figured out who the AP is and while she is not significantly younger, she is pretty and highly successful in a field that I left to raise DCs.  I was planning to confront DH about the affair but still had hope for reconciliation but this makes me worried he will definitely leave.[/quote]

Listen. Don't beg him to reconcile. I'm serious about this. Do the 180. He should be begging YOU to stay. Don't degrade yourself. You deserve better. 
This is the advice I wish someone had given me in the aftermath of finding out about my ex's affair. I got there eventually but it was humiliating for a while playing the "pick me" game as Chump Lady calls it.[/quote]
I did this too. Thinking about it now I cringe but in the moment with all the emotions and seeing my life blow up I couldn't do the 180.

Eff the other woman, your cheating husband should be crying and groveling. [/quote]

+1. When you're blindsided and in the moment, it's so easy to let the emotions take over and feel like you'd do anything to make things better again. Don't let this take over your situation. Put yourself first.[/quote]

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