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[quote=Anonymous]When our DD was a baby, I was SAH with no help so we were together 100% of the time.  DH works long hours so she would see him maybe half an hour a day? on weekdays and most of the day on the weekends.  For the first few months, I honestly don't recall her being especially bonded to me more than to DH.  I was completely in love with DD and there was nothing wrong with our relationship, but I don't remember her having any extra preference for me over him.  In fact, I remember when she was very little, that she preferred to sleep on DH's chest probably because my chest is bony and his is not, lol.  We bottlefed, by the way.  By the time she was 7 or 8 months, I remember that she preferred DH over me.  She would give him big smiles and be ecstatic to see him while I'd get neutral looks.  This did make my heart ache, but I knew it was because she missed him since she saw him so rarely.  But again even then, I didn't feel that our bond was more special than hers with DH even though I was with her all the time.  I was, and still am, a very nurturing, loving mother.

It was only sometime after eight months that I felt she preferred me in any way and that preference/our bond has gotten only stronger.  It's funny, but I never thought about our not so special bond when she was an infant until I read this post and the responses.  Our DD and I have a very special bond now, but I feel like it has less to do with the biological and all of the things that have been mentioned so far, but because eventually, DD recognized how much I loved her and that I was always there for her, both more than anyone else in the world, including, sadly, even DH.  [/quote]

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