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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My best friend tried a VBAC after a scheduled C section for a breech baby. She had some really fanciful notions about vaginal childbirth being some kind of empowering and beautiful experience she has missed out on and felt like she has failed in her first for having a section and was hell bent on trying for a vaginal birth. Some of her friends had had vaginal births tried to disavow her of these unrealistic expectations and to explain to her how painful and difficult the experience was but she wouldn’t hear it. She ended up having a long and painful labor and then a traumatic emergency C section which she said was far worse than the scheduled one. I think the only benefit she has now is that she can still run easily with no leaking or pelvic floor issues. But even after all that she still seems to think she missed out on something from not having a vaginal birth. [/quote]

Screw you.[/quote]

Why? If mom and baby are healthy and no one died or was permanently injured, WTF does it matter if baby came out of your belly instead of your lady bits? Plenty of vaginal births are horrific and injurious but the VBAC community refuses to hear that. [/quote]

I think the issue is that people like you discount other people's preferences if you don't share them. Many woman want to experience labor and vaginal childbirth. People like you are always offended by and dismissive of the reasons they want to do that. My reason was that I believe that childbirth is an experience that is uniquely female and I wanted to experience what billions of women before me experienced. I did find that birth was an empowering and beautiful experience, which was obviously largely a function of both of my births going smoothly and everyone coming through them healthy and happy. I would certainly feel differently if that wasn't the case, but before my first baby was born (10 years ago), I would have felt disappointment at not having had that experience. I know that women like you like to discount the mother's experience of birth as selfish and trivial, but not everyone feels that way. I don't think that my desire to experience vaginal childbirth is selfish, particularly since I absolutely would not trade "experience vaginal childbirth" for the health of my child. My sister recently had an emergency c-section with her first baby, and she plans to try for a VBAC next time. I know that she feels like she missed out on the experience that I and our mother had in having babies vaginally, even though she also feels grateful that her baby was healthy.

There are also complications to c-sections which the "VBAC moms are selfish" community refuses to hear. [/quote]

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