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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand this village concept.  What is it you want from others?  You want them to help you out with childcare and chores?  Or do you want to make friends?  [/quote]

I posted earlier about creating a village and for me it is: having someone who I can text and ask to pick up my kid from school or give them a ride home from practice (and I am happy to do the same), a neighborhood teen to feed the cat when we are away (we are friendly with her parents), someone to bring in our mail when we are away (neighbors), someone to celebrate occasions with and invite over for pizza or impromptu dinners. Other people who know and care about my children (besides family)  People to share stories with and get advice from. In my case the above people are both friends, and friendly acquaintances (parents of my kids’ friends). Knowing we are not alone, and knowing other people have my back in a pinch (and I, theirs). It makes parenting and family life a lot easier and less lonely. [/quote]

It sounds like you want your friends and family to provide free labor.  Also not sure how it’s easier if you’re also expected to help in return. [/quote]

Hardly. How old are your kids!? They don’t ever go to a friend’s house, or grab a ride home from practice with another parent because you got stuck in traffic? You don’t carpool? Bring in mail for your neighbors if asked? Borrow or lend something to a friend or neighbor!

I help as much as I get (probably more because I WAHM) and it isn’t about what is “easier” but about the sense of community and support. [/quote]

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