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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are worried about dating? I would be worried about my kids[/quote]

I am about to be divorced - as in, papers are signed and filed, STBX has bought a new place and will move out soon, and we are about to tell the kids - and yeah dating is the farthest thing from my mind now. Breaks my heart to think of the bomb we're going to drop on the kids. Think it will be a surprise because we have not had any overt conflicts in front of them.[/quote]

Trust me when I tell you they know more than you think and may not be surprised or shocked. That said, this will permanently mess them up. Be sure they are in therapy. Even if they think they are fine, the amount of damage you and your ex are inflicting on them can not be overstated. And staying together would likely be worse.[/quote]

Interesting you say this. My friends kids actually wanted them to divorce as they were all unhappy and the tension /conflict was palpable. They had a pretty amicable separation as both were more than done with the marriage and they had been living pretty separate lives for awhile. Even with all that, 2 of the 3 kids spiraled down after the divorce and were really impacted by it. They are about 7 years out now and everyone is fine but there were 2-3 really, really rough years for everyone. My friend says that despite how much better it was for her, she probably would have stayed until the kids were out of the house as seeing the impact on them was far worse. She also realizes though that they could also have been messed up if she had stayed with all the dysfunction in the house.[/quote]

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