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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not lay down the gauntlet?

He needs X GPA next semester or he’s coming home and doing a semester at community college. Then he needs to have CC gpa of at least 3.5 before you will agree to pay for college again. He can keep trying at community college for a year. After that he needs a job and pays rent orgets kicked out.

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Why not? Because that probably won't result in a kid who has intrinsic motivation, which is what OP says is her goal. In order to have intrinsic motivation the kid needs to be in charge of his own life and find what means something to him. I think it's reasonable if OP sets a floor below which she won't pay for college, though I'd probably make it a c average (because, as someone said, Cs get degrees). But she can't then also control what kid does next - kid might decide to stay in college town and wait tables, you know? Or become a ski bum. I would have. And having left school without a degree will leave her son in a less secure place than if she had sucked up her pride and paid for her son to have his college experience however he had it, and to graduate with a degree. What she will be unable to do is control who he becomes, what he loves, and what he is motivated to do. Those things are his alone.[/quote]

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